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What a story! The photo I find slightly disturbing though I'm not surprised that she had it made into art. Sounds like you did the right thing by walking away from it. Love you! xxx

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So much of your life is cinematic. This vignette no less so.

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I will admit that there are times I have YEARNED for a less cinematic life!

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Wow… what a story. ❤️ For everything you went through, you are so generous and open. A gift for all of us.

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Thank you, Lora -- my friend and sometimes teacher Elissa Altman is about to publish her new book "On Permission," about how memoirists are entitled to write what their own stories were and are.

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Perhaps this is a dumb question and I don't intend rudeness, but isn't that just what memoirists do?

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Not rude at all. I think her premise is that many folks are worried that others will disagree with, or be hurt by stories that reflect the honest lived experience of the memoirist. I would not have published my memoir while my mother was still alive. But there are others in there who ARE still alive. I’m not sorry about telling my story because it is just that: my story.

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It's a very rocky path to travel and everyone must chose their own way, but I think the important thing (for me anyway) is to always keep your intentions clear.

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I am coming to believe that you and I were separated at birth. Queuing up Miss Calypso now.

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